10 Lessons I Have Learned in College
College, college, college… what can I say these past two years have been filled with many good times and bad times, more bad than good but I am looking forward to the rest. I spent the first two years of college being sick so I never got to experience the “real” college experience, majority of my classes have either been online or my time on campus has been limited due to “germs”… yes, having no immune system meant that I couldn’t take many classes on campus to avoid getting sick.
Everything that has happened, happened for a reason and for that I am grateful for the learning experience. I fell in love with my jobs since coming to college because not only do I get to share my passion for science but I get to be the reason why kids know how to make a simple machine out of Popsicle sticks and rubber bands. I get to be around some of my favorite sports all year round and teach the kids the importance of sportsmanship and the great life lessons playing sports teaches you. Without college, I wouldn’t have passion for what I do and wouldn’t deeply appreciate all the things I have learned in the 20 years that I have been on Earth.
After two years of college, I wanted to share with others all that I have learned not just educational wise but about myself. I have created a list much longer than just 10 items but I am going to share the top 10 things that I have learned in college…
- Finding yourself is harder than finding a book in the library– after spending the majority of my first two years of college in the hospital, I found it hard to know who I was anymore. I strongly disliked the person I had became in high school, I had no backbone and didn’t have a voice of my own. Going into college I knew I had to find myself or at least the person I want to be and let me tell you, I have never checked a book out or even looked for a book in the library at my school and I know it is easier than finding who you want to be.
- Skipping class is the worst thing you can do (especially if you are already struggling with that class)- This was before we found out I had cancer but I leaving work when I had the worst coughing fit and something popped, not going to lie, I thought my lung had popped and as I collapsed to the ground all I could think about was not wanting to skip class. It took me a few minutes to recover, I called my mom to come take me to the ER, and then went to class. Turns out I had dislocated a rib and I still went back to school for my next class of the day.
- It’s actually really hard to keep friends– Not even going to lie, going into college I had some friends, I mean after everything went down my senior year I didn’t have a lot of friends as it was…but I was and am in a time in my life where friends really aren’t y thing. I am friends with majority of my coworkers but other than that I haven’t stayed friends with very many people.
- Go to office hours– I was never one to take advantage of office hours. I made it through high school without going to get a lot of help so why should I do it in college? Let me tell you, college is most definitely harder than high school… they aren’t even on the same level which is why I didn’t get very good grades my first semester of college, especially because I never went and got the help that I knew I needed. Just a big piece of advice, when your instructor has office hours… GO TO THEM! Take advantage of the office hours because you will thank yourself in the end.
- Living on campus is not for everyone– I didn’t have the best experience living on campus, I absolutely hated it. I never wanted to live on campus but I understood the reason why my parents made me and that is probably why I hated it since it wasn’t something I wanted to do and I am sure if I had mad friends and had people to hang out with it wouldn’t have been half as bad but since I was sick all year… I was in bed by six every night and hardly did anything besides go to class and work. I spent most of my time on campus convincing my dad to come pick me up but I don’t like being alone and being alone in my dorm room was the loneliest I have ever felt.
- Working in college has its advantages and disadvantages– I absolutely love my jobs, both of them, I love sharing my passion with others which makes working not feel like I have a job but I get paid to do it (if that makes sense). It does get crazy having to work during finals week and during weeks that I have tests but in the end, I like making money and I love working both jobs so there isn’t much to complain about. The only disadvantage would be having to choose which job I should work especially when there are events for both jobs on the same day…I’m really bad at making decisions and adulting means I can’t rely on my parents to make the choice for me.
- There is nothing wrong with not knowing what you want to do in life– I chose to major in mechanical engineering because I love learning the reasons why things work… I love taking things apart and trying to rebuild it and honestly the mechanics of everyday objects fascinate me. And that is great however , I still haven’t decided entirely what I want to spend the rest of my life doing. For now, I want to go into third-world countries and but sustainable resources and environmentally friendly resources but I still don’t know if I want to spend the rest of my life doing that. There isn’t anything wrong with that, many people go through two or three careers before they find what they are really passionate about. I just want to do what makes me happy…
- Stress is inevitable– You always here people telling you that being stressed makes things worse… don’t get me wrong stressing makes everything worse but in college there is absolutely no way to avoid it. This summer, I decided to take Calculus III to “catch” up in my degree and on top of working 50+ hours a week, I am beyond stressed but I have been dealing with it like a BOSS. College has been the most stressful time of my life but I have made it this far and at this point stress is just a pothole.
- (This just applies to me) Dating is ridiculously hard- I was never one to date, in high school I spent majority of my time playing sports or doing JROTC so that was my priority. Plus I didn’t really like the whole “dating” thing, to me it kind of seemed pointless. Going into college, my goal was to make friends (failed at that), go out more (failed at that too) and make this the most memorable time of my life (which I mean getting cancer is something I will never forget) so for being in college for two years I am 1 for 3 but now that I am no longer sick, I am working on not being the “cancer girl” but being “Kylie”.
- Your grades will not be the same as high school- If you’re anything like me going into college was a big slap in the face… literally my first semester of college I got a “C” in chemistry and trust me I cried for weeks. In high school I was the one who got all A’s and a B every so often so getting a C in college was heart breaking (especially your first semester) now if I get a C in a hard class, I’m doing pretty good. So trust me when I say this… a C is so much better than not passing the class. College is hard so don’t forget that.